Toddler Behavior Plan...is working!!!!

We created a plan to help our Sabrina, and it is working great so far! :) She is bright, happy, and so driven and determined in all she does. With this strong spirit and will, our daily challenge has been to curb severe fits and whining and help her to learn that she is the master of her own soul. It has been really HARD.

Lets just say we have all cried a lot about it.

We feel like we have tried so many things, and just when we seem like we have a few good days we sometimes feel like we are back to square one. It has been a matter of prayer and struggle and I know that as we continue to turn to Heavenly Father we will keep making progress. We have seen a lot of progress this week!

The Actual Plan

We made this for the fridge (Sabrina LOVES Peter Pan right now)

It is a very simple magnet Peter Pan and Jane who follow the stars all the way to Never Land. When we see Sabrina choosing to happily obey, serve at home, be positive, play kind with her brother, help without being asked, etc. then we move them a star forward. If she whines, hits, or has a fit, they move a star backwards. Once they make it to the green star in Never Land then she gets to choose something from her treasure box we made together (out of some boxes:).

We have a discussion about what things she would really like to earn from the box. (We want to keep it simple and cheap, but exciting enough for her to want to earn it) 

She chose some actual "things" along with things "to do" such as:

-Plant a seed

-Make cupcakes

-Make a dress

-Get a Wendy's frosty

-Peter Pan Book

-Tangled Book

-Stuffed animal

-Magnifying glass

-Make a pie

-Make a fort

We plan on adding variety by changing the magnet out, and then eventually changing the actual charts pictures depending on what she is most interested in. 

She chose "plant a seed" the first time she got Peter Pan to Never Land...and here is its progress :) 

The biggest key I knew was for both My Man and I was to be super, super consistent in our implementation of the plan. So far we have done two solid weeks and Sabrina is showing a deeper understanding of her own ability to control herself:) The other night she sincerely wept because she "did not be obey to dad"...it was sad and soooooo happy!

It is exhausting to be consistent but I know it is a quality that I need to work on in other aspects of my own life so it is such a blessing too.

I am so grateful to be a Mom. Along with the endless exhaustion and steady hard improvement of my character there also are so many treasured moments and hours where I thank our Father in Heaven as I feel ever so much closer to Him through the spirits of these little ones, and through our time as a whole family. The family is of God.

I feel so blessed, and so thankful that Heavenly Father created the perfect "behavior plan" for us to follow. I am ever grateful for his patient and perfect consistency as He helps me stop whining and throwing fits ;) He is so good. His Son is my perfect example. I love them. 

Have a beautiful day.